Been gone a long time, hello everyone

[notstock71]

I just wanted to drop a quick post to say hi to everyone. Life has a funny way of turning things around. Ive been going thru a divorce since August and it is about as ugly as I think it can be. Unfortunately the kids are stuck in the middle of whats shaping up to be a nasty custody battle. The house is on the market but thankfully the Nova and dads Camaro are still around. Of course she is going after them (or at least money from them). I know others on here have been thru this and I have read the threads and advice that has been given. It truly comes in handy and helps me to keep the focus on the big picture, the boys. I guess this thread is more of a thank you to everyone for being such a great group. You guys are great for info on everything in life.
Lewis

[TDW]

Hang in there Lewis. Best of luck with the whole ordeal.

[1randy]

wow, im going thru a divorce now , since may, getting bad , but my 10 year old son is number one write now , i lost my house , my 66 chevy II, my 18.5 foot boat , just so i can have my son!!!, praying is what keeps me going, god has been there for me. just pray and you will make it through this.

[92646]

Lewis, I divorced years ago and all I can tell you is that there is life after divorce and it can be better. I lost everything from a new house, new cars, old cars and all the toys. I am still better off now because I would have hated the thought of spending my time and energy with a wife that did not want to be with me.
Mark Sheppard

[Dog427435]

Just remember to never bad mouth the ex to the kids and in the long run you'll be the better person for it.
They are young, but not stupid - they will in time realize what is what and as long as you are righteous in the end your children will appreciate you for it!
Everything else is only money.

[Salvatore]

Man Lewis this sounds like great advice from these guys here. Keep praying for wisdom and even for strength to forgive. Keep everything in perspective. I have never been through a divorce but know many that have. It can be total destruction to any person or family. Keep your priorities in line. It will all work out. Sam http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggthumpup.gif

[Xplantdad]

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Man Lewis this sounds like great advice from these guys here. Keep praying for wisdom and even for strength to forgive. Keep everything in perspective. I have never been through a divorce but know many that have. It can be total destruction to any person or family. Keep your priorities in line. It will all work out. Sam http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggthumpup.gif

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I couldn't have said it better myself! http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/beers.gif

[69z2x4]

X2!

[JJEH]

Hi Lewis,

i can sympathize with you. I have the same "Problem" at the Time...

I wish you and your Kids all the best and take care!

[BJCHEV396]

Good luck Lewis.Things will get better.Take it from a guy who's been there,done that.Keep your boys close.

[nuch_ss396]

Lewis,

Hang in there man http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif

I went through this same situation three years ago and I am
finally getting to the other side of the tunnel. http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/3gears.gif It's a shame how love blossoms,
grows.... then dies and the rotting remainder is called divorce. In my case my
ex-wife went after all my vintage car parts. Luckily for me my Camaro was a
pre-marital asset and hence not on the table. I had to come up with a pile of money to keep all my vintage parts.
There isn't much left of my financial security for retirement now, but I'll get it back up there..... http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif

If you need anyone to talk to about it, drop me a PM - Seriously! It's not fun but
you have to remain calm and be calculating about all your moves.

Now the fun starts.... All her "friends" coming out of the wood work giving divorce advice. http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mad.gif

Nuch

[Nova Jed]

Take every bit of advice these people are giving you. I have come from a divorced family and it hasn't been fun. As hard as it may be, keep the kids in mind and make sure that if you have to say nasty things, please try not to do it in front of them. Things tend to subside and come out later in life.

"Life's like a box of Chocolates. Ya never know what you're gonna get."

[notstock71]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I have read these threads in the past but never really figured I would be involved in this. I have re-read some of this advice as it has been given to others and it truly does help. That's why I wanted to give a big thank you to everyone here. It seems no matter what someone needs the great advice is plentifull.

I have tried remaining positive about this, keeping the kids as my main focus. I dont want this to be any harder on them than it has to be. I agree 100% about minding p's and q's in front of the kids. I just wish she felt the same. The games seem never ending, whether she is prying information from them or trying to mess up a great day we have had. The worst part of this is that she will not agree to any sort of joint legal or physical custody (unless I agree to pay her ransom in child support). I don't understand how someone can preach having their best interests in mind and in the next breath be trying to take them from the other spouse. I have never thought of doing that to her, I believe it is in the kids best interest to have 50-50 with both parents. Unfortunately they are another tool to her to get to me just as her going for the cars.

The Mustang is gone, split that money 50-50. The Nova is pre-marital but she wants money for things done since the marriage (tires, wheels and the hood) plus any increase in value. Fortunately it tanked in value since we have been married (thank you crappy economy http://www.yenko.net/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif) . As for dads old Camaro she wants half the value which is next to nothing. I offered up a large amount of household items so I could keep his car but she refused, it's all a game.

Anyways thanks for letting me rant here. I know things will turn around and the boys and I will be better in the long run.